I spent most of my life worrying about things that never happened Mark Twain
"One theory of anxiety by Liebert and Morris in 1967 suggests that anxiety consists of two components; worry and emotionality. Emotionality refers to physiological symptoms such as sweating, increased heartbeat and raisedblood pressure. Worry refers to negative self-talk that often distracts the mind from focusing on solutions to the problem at hand. For example, when students become anxious during a test, they may repeatedly tell themselves they are going to fail, or they cannot remember the material, or that their teacher will become angry with them if they perform poorly. This thinking interferes with focusing on the test as the speech areas of the brain that are needed to complete test questions are being used for worrying.
Dr. Edward Hallowell, psychiatrist and author of Worry, argues that while "Worry serves a productive function", "anticipatory and dangerous" worrying—which he calls "toxic worry"--can be harmful for your mental and physical health. He claims that "Toxic worry is when the worry paralyzes you," whereas "Good worry leads to constructive action" such as taking steps to resolve the issue that is causing concern. To combat worry, Hallowell suggests that people should not worry alone, because people are much more likely to come up with solutions when talking about their concerns with a friend. As well, he urges worriers to find out more information about the issue that is troubling them, or make sure that their information is correct. Another step to reduce worry is to make a plan and take action and take "care of your brain" by sleeping enough, getting exercise, and eating a healthy diet (without a "lot of carbs, junk food, alcohol, drugs, etc). Hallowell encourages worriers to get "regular doses of positive human contact" such as "a hug or a warm pat on the back". Finally, he suggests that worriers let the problem go rather than gathering them around themselves." 2
"Your Health. Martin Luther observed, 'Heavy thoughts bring on physical maladies; when the soul is oppressed so is the body.'
Get your refund: When you're feeling very concerned about something, focus on caring for yourself physically. Eat healthy, get 8 hours of sleep....
Your Well-Being. Thomas Jefferson said, 'How much pain they have cost us, the evils which have never happened.'
Get your refund: Take a brisk walk while you think over whatever is bothering you. The endorphins produced by the exercise will help you think more positively and stimulate solutions.
Your Energy. According to John Lubbock, 'A day of worry is more exhausting than a day of work.'
Get your refund: When you're fretting over something you can't control, DO something that is within your control. Accomplishing a goal or completing a project is energizing.
Your Personal Growth. Ed Northstrom reasoned, 'You can never worry your way to enlightenment.'
Get your refund: When you're bogged down with negative thoughts, read something inspiring. The Bible, biographies of great people who overcame obstacles, or articles that will help you improve your performance in your career or avocation will lift your focus from the problem to the bigger picture of positive possibilities.
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Your Productivity. George Herbert wrote, 'A hundred-load of worry will not pay an ounce of debt.'
Get your refund: When worry has you feeling like your hands are tied, it's easy to give up and do nothing. Get busy. Identify your problem, then list small things you can do to address it. Go through the list, one step at a time, and tackle each item. As they say, the only way to eat an elephant is one bite at a time!
Your Happiness. John Dryden lamented, 'Only man clogs his happiness with care, destroying what is with thoughts of what may be.'
Get your refund: If you have been unable to enjoy good things in your life because you're worried about what can go wrong, try thinking about all that could go right. If learning ballroom dancing would make you happy but you're afraid of making a fool of yourself, remember that embarrassment is not fatal and others in the class are probably just as nervous as you are. Focus on the probability that, once you learn to dance, you'll enjoy it for years to come.
Your Perspective. That great philosopher Charlie Brown (aka Charles Schultz) got it quite right when he said, 'I've developed a new philosophy... I only dread one day at a time.'
Get your refund: When you're worried about a long-term problem, take life one day at a time. Deal with what is in front of you right now - that's plenty for one day! If there is something you can do today to make your situation better tomorrow, go for it. But don't lump tomorrow's problems into today's load!
'Blessed is the person who is too busy to worry in the daytime and too sleepy to worry at night.' (Unknown)" 3
Resources
1.http://www.teachhub.com/mark-twain-guide-grades-6%E2%80%9312
2. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Worry
3. http://www.relationaladvantage.com/article_the-price-of-worry
4. http://www.safalniveshak.com/start-worrying-about-your-finances/